One of the clearest signs, according to this perspective, that the age we live in has become an age in which deception and disorder are increasingly prevalent is that beauty itself has become artificial. When beauty becomes artificial, it means that human beings no longer want to preserve what already exists within them, but instead want to constantly change and alter it.
True beauty does not need to beautify itself; all it needs to do is preserve its beauty. As for the person who constantly feels the need to adorn and change themselves, they do so because they look at themselves through an unjust view and see their natural state as ugly or deficient, something that requires correction. Thus, beautification changes from a means into an end, and the human being becomes someone who continually torments themselves because they are dissatisfied with their original appearance.
True beauty, according to this perspective, is independent of beautification. Once one enters the realm of continuous beautification, there is an implicit acknowledgment that there is some defect or ugliness that needs to be concealed or changed.
Here one of the central ideas emerges: global companies that promote new standards of beauty do not always view the natural and normal state as complete; rather, they present it as something that can be improved and changed. Thus, the natural becomes deficient, the artificial becomes more valuable, and change transforms from an option into a necessity.
When the Natural Becomes the Strange
This idea can also be observed in some contemporary discourses concerning identity, gender, and sexual relationships. It has become possible for a person who maintains a traditional sexual identity to be portrayed as backward or closed-minded, while a person who rejects traditional boundaries of identity is portrayed as more open-minded and enlightened.
I came across a discourse by someone speaking about themselves and about the concept of openness. They believed that a person who is attracted to different gender identities is more open-minded than someone who maintains a specific pattern of attraction. According to this discourse, a person who is attracted exclusively to the opposite sex—that is, a man attracted to women and a woman attracted to men—is considered less open than someone who places no clear boundaries on their attraction.
Here lies the issue of discernment.
Discernment does not necessarily mean exclusion; rather, it means the ability to recognize differences and establish boundaries. From this perspective, completely removing boundaries does not necessarily mean reaching a higher state of awareness; it may instead mean losing the ability to discern.
This is where the idea of the “androgynous deity,” previously raised within this framework, emerges: a being that wants to be this and that at the same time, and to play multiple roles without settling into a complete identity.
Identity and Its Boundaries
Within this framework, Satan becomes a symbol of the being that crosses the boundaries of its identity. The male who is not content with his masculinity and continually wants to move into other roles, and the female who is not content with her femininity and seeks to cross the boundaries of her identity, both enter a state of instability.
The idea here is not that change itself is the problem, but rather that the motive behind change may be a feeling of ugliness and dissatisfaction with oneself.
If the male were complete in his masculinity and satisfied with it, he would have no need to flee from it. And if the female were complete in her femininity and satisfied with it, she would have no need to flee from it. Therefore, according to this perspective, crossing the boundaries of identity begins with a deep feeling that the original identity is insufficient or unattractive.
Thus, dissatisfaction with oneself becomes an entry point for continuous change.
Satan and Discernment
This is also connected to the concept of discernment. Satan, within this perspective, does not distinguish between male and female, nor does he adhere to defined boundaries; rather, he operates through pure attraction without regard for boundaries or identities.
For this reason, according to this view, the normal person is characterized by their ability to discern, while a person experiencing identity-related disorder becomes more susceptible to being drawn toward anything that removes boundaries between identities.
Thus, attraction to all identities, within this framework, is not necessarily evidence of enlightenment; it may instead be evidence of a loss of discernment.
Here another relationship between identity and discernment emerges: when a person's features, energy, and identity are unclear, the process of discernment becomes more difficult. What is indistinct can become more susceptible to confusion and disorder.
Construction and Family
This perspective then moves to the concept of construction, meaning the construction of the family and offspring.
According to the idea presented, sound construction is based on a sound male and a sound female, and on genuine compatibility between them. When disorder enters the identity of either party or the relationship itself, the construction becomes vulnerable to disorder.
For this reason, the idea of “unprotected construction” has been proposed, whereby a relationship involving severe identity or sexual disorder is regarded as an unstable construction.
Within this context, Satan is presented as a symbolic partner in disordered construction, and this partnership is linked to disorders that may later appear in offspring.
Within this perspective, a number of characteristics have been mentioned that are believed to potentially appear in children resulting from such a construction, such as poor concentration, hyperactivity and excessive movement, weak attachment to parents or a disturbed relationship with them, followed by the continuation of these disturbances with advancing age.
This perspective also links identity disorder in parents with the possibility of disorders appearing in their children, so that the problem, according to it, is not confined to the parents but may extend its effects to the entire family structure.
Casual Relationships and the Loss of Discernment
From here comes the idea of casual relationships as one of the gateways to deviation.
The casual relationship is not, within this perspective, the greatest form of deviation in itself; rather, its danger lies in the fact that it may lead to a loss of discernment. A man who enters into casual relationships with multiple women without allowing the relationship to leave any framework or distinctive imprint may, over time, become unable to distinguish one woman from another in terms of relationship and construction.
The same applies, within this perspective, to a woman who enters into multiple casual relationships.
The fundamental idea here is that a relationship should not merely be a fleeting moment without an effect or framework. Every relationship leaves an imprint, and when imprints accumulate without a stable framework, a person becomes more disordered and less capable of building a stable relationship.
For this reason, the proposal is to abstain from casual relationships for a period of time for anyone who wants to return to a state of stability, with the duration of abstinence depending on the person's ability to regain balance and return to the state they consider sound.
Conditions for Sacred Construction
If, according to this perspective, we want to reach sound construction and genuine sacred sexual union, there are a number of conditions.
First: The absence of casual relationships.
The man and woman should not be continuing in casual relationships. If either of them has previously engaged in them, they should stop and allow themselves a period to regain stability.
Second: Genuine choice.
Emotion alone is not enough; there must be a choice based on reason. The correct choice is one that is rational first, after which emotion accepts and is satisfied with it.
As for allowing emotion to completely lead reason, within this perspective, this means that reason has lost its function. Reason must be stable and sound, while emotion moves within it and responds to it.
From here comes the analogy between reason and emotion, and between masculinity and femininity: masculinity represents stability, while femininity represents movement and fluctuation. Fluctuation can rest upon stability, just as the branches of a tree move above a stable trunk, but the trunk itself cannot become fluctuation and still keep the structure standing.
Therefore, the choice of a partner should be rational, and emotion should then be satisfied with that choice. If emotion continuously rejects the choice of reason, this is a sign that there is danger or a flaw in the choice itself.
Parenting and Distinguishing Between Male and Female
The concept of discernment extends to parenting.
According to this perspective, males and females should not be raised in exactly the same way, because each has different characteristics and a different role.
At first glance, treating a male child exactly like his sisters in every task may appear fair. If the girl washes the dishes and sweeps the floor, why should the boy not do the same?
But according to this view, the problem is not the work itself; rather, it lies in removing distinctions that should help the child recognize their identity.
Thus, within this perspective, the distinction between male and female should be particularly clear when reaching the age of discernment, puberty, and maturity.
This does not mean wronging either side or preventing either from learning; rather, it means giving each child an environment that helps them develop their own identity.
The Male Child and Leaving the Scene
According to this perspective, the male child gradually needs to leave the home environment and become self-reliant.
As he grows older, the male child should gradually begin separating from constant dependence on his mother, not suddenly or harshly, but with wisdom and gradual progression.
For example, the father can take him outside the home, give him small tasks, and send him to handle a nearby errand while monitoring and protecting him, so that the child feels capable of assuming responsibility and carrying out tasks.
The purpose is not to isolate or neglect him, but to make him accustomed to readiness, work, and responsibility.
A child who always remains at home and depends on his mother for everything may become excessively dependent on his surrounding environment. By contrast, a child who gradually learns to leave that environment develops a sense of independence and readiness.
The Female Child and Embrace
By contrast, this perspective proposes that the female child needs a different environment.
For a young girl, affection and attention are regarded as important factors in her emotional development and her sense of security and belonging.
According to this view, the female does not need to be pushed toward independence early in the same way the male is; rather, she needs to remain within a circle of attention and protection.
Here the difference between raising a male and raising a female becomes apparent: the male needs to gradually leave the scene and become self-reliant, while the female needs to feel that she remains within the scene and is the object of care and attention.
At the same time, however, attention should not turn into excessive indulgence or into assigning the girl roles that do not suit her.
Some fathers, when they do not have sons, may rely on their daughter as though she were the son they were not blessed with. According to this perspective, this may wrong her because it places her in a position that does not suit her nature.
The Age of Discernment and Puberty
When a child reaches the age of discernment and then puberty, the need for a clear identity becomes greater.
At this stage, there should be a clear distinction between male and female, and the male should gradually separate from the surrounding female environment and move more toward independence and responsibility.
This does not mean severing the relationship between mother and son or depriving him of love; rather, it means gradually moving from dependence to independence.
The basic principle here is that sound parenting should take different stages of development into account and should not treat all children in exactly the same way merely because that appears fair on the surface.
Disorder Is Not a Final Judgment
Nevertheless, this perspective does not mean that a person who grew up in a disordered environment is condemned to remain disordered forever.
Even if the initial upbringing was not sound, a person can reach stability through knowledge, observation, adjustment, and correction.
Within this perspective, there is a remedy for every disorder and the possibility of correcting what has gone wrong. Therefore, speaking about sound upbringing does not mean issuing a final judgment against people who did not receive it.
Rather, the purpose is to prevent disorders from becoming amplified from the beginning, because addressing a problem while it is small is easier than leaving it until it becomes deeply rooted in a person's character.
Custody and Separation
One example raised by this perspective is the issue of child custody after divorce.
If the child is male and has reached a relatively advanced age, then keeping him in the mother's custody, according to this view, may lead to continued dependence on the female environment and prevent the gradual separation he needs.
According to this perspective, there is a concern that this could lead to the formation of a negative attitude toward masculinity and fatherhood if the child remains in an environment that does not help him develop independence.
Here the issue is not merely legal custody; within this intellectual framework, it becomes part of the process of identity formation.
When the Normal Becomes Sick
One of the most dangerous consequences of this transformation, according to the proposed perspective, is that society may reach a stage where the normal person themselves becomes the object of accusation.
It may reach the point where a person who maintains a clear identity and is attracted to the opposite sex is viewed as backward, primitive, or closed-minded, while a person who experiences disorder or rejects clear boundaries is viewed as more progressive and enlightened.
Here the standards are reversed.
The normal becomes the strange, the disordered becomes the model, and the problem becomes that the person living in a stable manner is forced to defend their normality.
According to this perspective, true freedom does not mean doing everything that comes to one's mind; rather, it means being able to live without becoming a slave to one's disorders and desires.
A person filled with disorders is not necessarily freer; they may instead be less capable of building something stable because they are still searching for themselves and have not reached a state of self-acceptance.
The Sound Person and the Ability to Choose
According to this perspective, the sound person does not need to search for themselves in every direction. A man distinguishes a woman from other women, and a woman distinguishes a man from other men.
This distinction does not mean eliminating others; rather, it means possessing a clear standard for choice.
When a person becomes attracted to everything without discernment, they lose the ability to build a meaningful relationship because choice itself disappears.
Construction requires choice, choice requires discernment, and discernment requires reason.
Therefore, within this perspective, the real war is not only against relationships or identity, but against reason and the foundation.
Forgetfulness and Distraction
Another idea that emerged while presenting this perspective is that distraction and forgetfulness can be among the most dangerous obstacles to thinking.
When a person approaches an idea they consider sensitive or dangerous, they may suddenly experience a decline in concentration, as though the thread of the idea has been cut. Multiple paths then appear before them, and they can no longer determine the original path.
When this happens, the best way to return to concentration is to go back to the last point about which the person was certain and then build from it again.
The mind needs a fixed point from which to proceed. When a person loses their center, they become vulnerable to many paths that distract them from the central issue.
Thus, concentration itself becomes part of discernment, because a person cannot distinguish between truth and illusion if their mind is distracted and unable to hold the idea firmly.
Conclusion: Beauty That Needs No Embellishment
Ultimately, this entire perspective can be summarized in one idea:
True refinement is for a person to reach a state in which they no longer need embellishment, beautification, lies, artificiality, or pretense.
To reach a stage in which they are satisfied with themselves—not because they see themselves as perfect and without flaws, but because they no longer need to continually flee from themselves.
Many disorders begin with dissatisfaction with oneself. Then come the offers of change and transformation telling the person that what they are is not enough, and that they must become something else in order to be accepted, beautiful, or enlightened.
But true beauty, according to this perspective, is not found in constant change, but in the ability to preserve what is sound.
True construction is not based on irrational emotion, casual relationships without lasting meaning, or an identity without boundaries. Rather, it is based on choice, discernment, acceptance, and stability.
If the man is satisfied with the woman he has chosen, and the woman is satisfied with the man she has chosen, then this satisfaction becomes part of protecting the construction.
But when the man is not satisfied with the woman, and the woman is not satisfied with the man, and each party constantly searches for an alternative, a change, or another image, the construction becomes open to disorder.
Thus everything returns to the starting point:
True beauty needs no embellishment, the stable person needs no artificiality, and sound construction begins with a person capable of knowing themselves, accepting themselves, distinguishing themselves, and preserving themselves.
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